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Wow. Wow. Wow.

I’ve recently had a bad breakup and this was so needed and on time and beautiful and devastating and helpful. Thank you. You are a gift.

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Whew! I felt every lesson you shared Nneka, thank you. Here are some of mine:

1. Don't try to numb the pain. It's important to allow ourselves to make time to go through all the emotions when a relationship has failed instead of creating constant distractions for what we are feeling because we might end up finding unhealthy habits to cope.

2. Some failed relationships are a release. I didn't realize how trapped in a toxic relationship I was until I freed myself from the clutches of an emotionally abusive partner and everything that came with it. I made space for what's worth my worth and I love it HERE lol.

3. Once beaten, twice shy. I've made it a habit to look in the mirror, be honest with myself and trust my inner guide to avoid making the same mistakes.

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The goodbye was for a reason. I find myself sometimes pondering on this-before, during, and after. This is still a journey for me as I remind myself that the separation was needed to disconnect and connect again with myself.

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The same wall that keeps out grief, keeps out joy.🙌🏾 love this!

i learned to have boundaries and speak up in the moment when someone is rude to me. .

i also learned, sadly that certain ppl were never my true friends💔

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Nobody should rush your healing journey.Nobody should force you to heal. Nobody should project their insecurities about you and gas light you into thinking you need to change yourself to accommodate them. Someone should love you for who you are, love you through your evolution. Their urgency to change you to accommodate themselves is selfish especially when they infringe their spiritual beliefs on you. Be weary of spiritual manipulation. Give people permission to be who they are

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No. 5. Felt that one deep, deep. It's absolutely taught me how to lean into practicing letting ago and acceptance. It's painful yet necessary, especially when it comes to relationships we'd hope would manifest into something beautiful. Nonetheless, I'm a believer it all serves a purpose.

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If you bend too far trying to conform to a partner's ideals, you will eventually break

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It's around the time I remember a particular relationship that failed..this came in timely. ❤️

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Wow! this is so beautifully said. I am pondering on so much right now. Thank you for writing this.

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Breakups are very painful actually and sometimes we tend to go back critic our selves like we were the only one that contributed to it but regardless breakups teach a ton of lessons like confidence trust me you’ll push yourself to become confident that’s all I had to say. Nneka thanks for the letters you have absolutely beautiful work.

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