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Mar 3, 2022Liked by Nneka Julia

I always thought having one huge friend group was a common thing for adults. Scenes from Living Single, Girlfriends, A Different World…shaped this thought. Now in my late 20’s, I look around and see small pockets of friend groups. The group from high school, the group from college, different jobs, and so forth. It’s not what I imagined but I’m eternally grateful of the different groups that shape the different parts of who I am. 💕

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Mar 3, 2022Liked by Nneka Julia

I used to think friends just always had time to meet up after work / during lunch on the daily at the bar / coffeehouse / restaurant. (How I met your mother, SATC, etc).

Now it’s like:

1. That’s mad $$$

2. Ain’t nobody got that kind of time😂😩

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Mar 3, 2022Liked by Nneka Julia

I the other was common to have it all figured out before 30

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Mar 3, 2022Liked by Nneka Julia

I thought a life partner would automatically happen after a certain age or even frustration level; that person would magically appear because that’s what happens in the movies. Not so, not that! At least not yet. Lol

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I used to think that the road to adulthood would be seamless and easy. By 25, all my friends and I would be parents, juggling our perfect careers with our dream like households. We would have it all figured out and we would all grow at the same pace. We would go through things at the exact same time, similar to adolescence, and just be a few blocks away from the nearest friend when in need. Oh, how I thought things would be so simple.

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Mar 3, 2022·edited Mar 3, 2022Liked by Nneka Julia

I used to think that every pregnant person loved being pregnant, and that it was always a beautiful time and experience in their life.

Well that was a lie.

I am yet to experience it, but I have learnt a considerable amount from others and I’m mentally better equipped.

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Mar 3, 2022Liked by Nneka Julia

I thought I would live with my closest friends throughout my 20’s and that we would have fun all the time. Instead I had way too many house shares with strangers that I could not stand 🥴

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Mar 3, 2022Liked by Nneka Julia

That true love was some long epic drama, like Ross & Rachel in Friends. I identified and even tried to be like Rachel in my adolescence. Over time I realized that the drama was totally created in my own mind which then manifested in my romantic relationships. Not real life haha.

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