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It feels like you got a glimpse into my heart and helped me articulate what I couldn’t. I call this phenomenon “moral solidarity”. It’s a code that’s as part of me as my skin is and I’ve never not applied it to people I love. But some events this week has me wondering if it’s time to dump it or be more discerning.

I too, think it’s beyond reasonable to desire some of what you give in return but why does it feel unfair to ask my friends to reciprocate in the same way?

Anyway, I’m happy to learn I’m not alone in this. Thank you for sharing.

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Aug 31, 2022Liked by Nneka Julia

This was an awesome read. one that requires multiple. Very Very deep and interesting. makes me scatter in my archives of emotions!

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Aug 30, 2022Liked by Nneka Julia

Ohhh. This was the word! Thank you for writing. In the past, I’ve ended friendships not on the terms of loyalty, but on terms of showing up but not receiving the same on my end. I often still think if I am wrong for doing so, as we all live different lives and can show up when the situation permits. Interesting all together how we interpret whats reasonable to accept or not.

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Aug 30, 2022Liked by Nneka Julia

I've read this 3x this morning already! I feel SEEN - thank you for putting words to my feels as always.

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Aug 30, 2022·edited Aug 30, 2022Liked by Nneka Julia

Nneka fucking Julia ladies and gents. This was goooood.

Not to mention this gave me more captions than a drake song. I'm good for the year 😭. Whew!

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