I've learned....that it's not my fault. People have the freedom to choose who they engage with and when to stop it. However, that stop broke my 20 year old heart in college. I had no way to tell exactly what I did to make them no longer want to be my friend. I had done all of the "right" things including apologizing just for the sake of …
People have the freedom to choose who they engage with and when to stop it. However, that stop broke my 20 year old heart in college. I had no way to tell exactly what I did to make them no longer want to be my friend. I had done all of the "right" things including apologizing just for the sake of it. Nothing seemed to work and my heart continued to break. I felt so lost because the "friendship" my mother told me would be "life long" had now ended.
Now, as professional 25 year old (LOL), I'm learning that stop was one of the best things that could have happened to me. I grew as a woman and recognized the strength in myself. As I look back on this memory I now see and understand the elements of Tenderness and Truth that forged our friendship but definitely dwindled out towards the end. I take this lesson and apply it to my new friendships with wonderment and grace. Wonderment for new adventures and community; and grace for my "still learning" moments.
Thank you so much for this amazing read. I often times think of this friendship break up and have no where to put my feelings outside of my diary. Thank you for giving our community space to be seen, heard, and felt. 🤎
I've learned....that it's not my fault.
People have the freedom to choose who they engage with and when to stop it. However, that stop broke my 20 year old heart in college. I had no way to tell exactly what I did to make them no longer want to be my friend. I had done all of the "right" things including apologizing just for the sake of it. Nothing seemed to work and my heart continued to break. I felt so lost because the "friendship" my mother told me would be "life long" had now ended.
Now, as professional 25 year old (LOL), I'm learning that stop was one of the best things that could have happened to me. I grew as a woman and recognized the strength in myself. As I look back on this memory I now see and understand the elements of Tenderness and Truth that forged our friendship but definitely dwindled out towards the end. I take this lesson and apply it to my new friendships with wonderment and grace. Wonderment for new adventures and community; and grace for my "still learning" moments.
Thank you so much for this amazing read. I often times think of this friendship break up and have no where to put my feelings outside of my diary. Thank you for giving our community space to be seen, heard, and felt. 🤎