January 1st, unfortunately, isn’t a magic wand.
I’m reminded of this fact, far too often, when scanning old notebooks, text messages, and photos.
Change, in oneself and one's life, is a slow endeavor. Most progress is painfully imperceptible, and other shifts so sudden they bring you to your knees. I’m grateful experience shows that the large leaps are less essential than small, intentional, consistent steps forward. It is, after all, the tiny two-degree shifts that land a plane in an entirely different state.
I was almost quick to write off 2021 as 2020 junior given the start (and the last few weeks). To color the messy mural of months as all wrong. Death will do that. Loss will do that. Grief will do that. They stain one's memory gray, bleeding onto brighter days without word or warning. But, just as a single mistake doesn’t define a person, a handful of heartbreaking events doesn’t define a year, a life. And death, loss, and grief have an undeniable way of making what truly matters more vibrant.
Over the last year, I’ve been fortunate enough to experience countless moments of joy. I’ve had time to love on family and friends. To shoot tons of (expensive asssss) film. To read and write, and not read and write at all. To laugh till I cry, and cry till I laugh. To think. To listen. To be understood. To feel the ocean foam between my toes. To down passion fruit martinis and squeeze fat limes over a bed of fresh oysters. To be reminded that a single day contains an entire lifetime and that every day’s another chance.
I’ve never felt a more deep, unwavering understanding of one of life’s greatest tensions. The words that Rabbi Simcha Bunim urged his pupils to etch on two pieces of paper and store in separate pockets:
On one: “The world was created for me”
On the other: “I am but dust and ashes.”
You and I have much to finish before returning to dust. For the ones we love and for ourselves. I have letters to send, a manuscript to finish, and Season 4 of Passing Through to record. We need each other, and I’m excited to share the process.
In the next post I’ll review the last year in notes and photos I’ve taken, moments of reflection, awe, and wonder, and simple pleasures too.
Happy New Year, beautiful people!
And thank you, always, for being here.
As always, your beautiful articulation of words inspire and captivate me! Grief is such a robber of joy, yet a motivating force you never knew you’d need! I’m excited to see the journey, read your words, view your pictures and hear my favorite podcast; Passing Through!
I cannot wait to read, listen and be inspired with what you have in-store for us.